Okay, so if you are like me, then you also think that there is an excessive amount of articles for twenty somethings. Advice, life lessons, travel… you name it, and there is an article online for how this generation should handle any and all obstacles at this age. Although I appreciate good advice, it seems like everyone and their mother has an opinion on how us twenty somethings should approach life. If you have read posts on my blog before, then you know my opinion of bucket lists vs. spontaneous experiences. I have found that trying to cross things off a list or believing that a certain experience will make you happy often is not as wonderful as the simple moments. I think this concept also applies to advice for twenty somethings and this quote. Although this is not a famous quote, it has stuck with me as of late. There is so much pressure for recent graduates to have it all together. I noticed this the most while I was at Bucknell for my first Homecoming weekend since graduating. It was interesting to talk with friends who have jobs vs. those who are still searching, and those who like their jobs vs. those who clearly hate their jobs. Although not everyone is happy (which is to be expected of course, first jobs are not easy after all!), it seemed like the most important thing was acting like everything is great. I guess that is life, but shouldn’t we all be a little bit more sympathetic, understanding, and well… real? After all, we have just been through this process so we should know how hard finding a job or getting a job we love is in this job market. (Sidenote: I do genuinely like my job!!!)
This quote made me think of a conversation I had Saturday night at Bucknell. My friend Sarah and I were talking at the local bar when one of our close friend’s ex walked by. Neither of us were good friends with him, but we said hi and asked the obligatory “How’s your weekend? What have you been up to since graduation?” He immediately went off on this mini tangent about how he is sick of how his life is not living up to the expectations of others. It was very clear that his job search or career path has not been a smooth ride. So, both Sarah and I shut up and did not ask where he is working/what he is doing. As someone who did not have the easiest job search process, I completely understood where he was coming from. It is so hard when everyone is expecting you to have the perfect job and know exactly what you want, when right now that is not the case. It made me sad that he clearly was not enjoying what should be a fun weekend with old friends. This quote seemed to directly describe what he was facing. Recent graduates, especially when surrounded by old peers, face enormous pressure to have their lives together. However, that is not what our twenties are about! We should seriously cut ourselves some slack. I may have a great job, but I am still living at home and trying to figure out when I want to make the move to the big city. I do not have all the answers, and I should not have to try and act like I do. Seriously, nothing will ruin this time more than thinking I have to have all the answers.
I hope that this quote reminds my fellow post grads that it is okay not to have it all together. That is what our twenties are for! Try to cut yourself some slack and go with the flow. I know, I know, easier said than done, and it is something that I am still struggling with on a daily basis. However, I think it is important to take a step back and give ourselves perspective. Now is our time to explore, so let’s stop acting like we have got it all together. Let’s face it, we haven’t got a clue.